Monthly Archives: April 2012

Productive Post – Go Scrub A Rock!

It’s overcast,wet, and cool here in SW Ohio, late winter vying for a a last-gasp bit of attention, having largely snoozed through its curtain call.  Perfect weather for pondering, sharing a book, or getting garden beds ready to plant.

Or scrubbing a rock.

One of my favorite parts of the Baby Unplugged initiative and its mission is discovering, rediscovering, and/or drawing attention to simple things that are increasingly easy to miss with all of the email, gaming, and blogging going on.  Old-school stuff that brings back memories and generates new ones: cardboard boxes, the inaugural calls of frogs and toads, bouncy red kickballs.  And how about the noble, iconic rock – its allure diminished in the era of rockin’ apps for the iPad – its surface inlaid with fossils, crystals, and maybe gold, perfect for turning in search of creatures, stacking, even throwing (not at your brother/sister, of course).

Here’s a great book about rocks, by the way:

And here’s an app where babies probably won’t find a lot of cool rocks:

Anyway.  My good friends at Productive Parenting were kind enough to share this sublime activity, perfect for a day like today.  Best to get some get-dirty clothes handy.  Here it is:

Target Age: Middle One Year-Old

Materials Needed:

  • Towel
  • Scrub brush
  • Soap
  • Large rock (editor’s note: a very important choice!  Rocks are intimate things.  Let your instincts guide you….)
  • Container of Water

What to Do: Scrubbing will help develop your child’s upper body strength and eye/hand coordination. Some children scrub for long periods of time (editor’s note: such focus is a wonderful thing to nurture!).  Show your child how to put the scrub brush in the soapy water and scrub a muddy rock. Observe the time your child spends on this activity. Towel it off afterwards.

Skills Learned:

  • Upper body strength
  • Eye-hand coordination
  • Attention span
  • Gross Motor (editor’s note: mud is not gross)

Visit http://www.productiveparenting.com for more fun, free activities.

Try it and share your experience.  Memories of rocks are welcome, too!

Unplugged Earth Day – Ode to the Yard

Best that I didn’t write this yesterday, since actual Earth Day is a time to be away from computers and such.  That said, its coming/going reminds us of many things: recycling, polar bears, turning off the water while brushing teeth, the Lorax – the latter hopefully implying unplugged story time on carbon-neutral laps, not the movie, but I digress…

Though I have lived and hiked in the mountains and other wild places, I did not grow up especially wilderness-y.  Our family tent was pitched in suburban, metropolitan Kentucky, and neither trekked, spelunked, nor did any actual camping. Wilderness, to me, was my neighborhood, and it seemed wild enough.  We hiked to the creek (a drainage culvert), played in construction site dirt- and sand piles, rode bikes in roadless areas (mostly neighbor yards), got stung by bees and ants, and caught/released fireflies and turtles.  Though they were loving and involved, my parents only rarely had the vaguest idea where I was most of the time.  This was normal.

Flash forward to the new millennium.  It is a different age, perhaps even a different planet.  Most of my 30- and 40-something parent cohort recall similar wild, unplugged childhoods and wonder where they went.  Was there a critical extinction event where all of a sudden such stuff seemed dangerous?  No way it became boring, but did we invent something so incredibly alluring that it abruptly faded?  Was it an evil, sanitized plot cooked up by Apple, Nintendo, and Baby Einstein?  A media meteor strike?

Likely a combination of things, though said meteor is a key driver. New technologies.  Parents enchanted by Atari now handing over iPads.  24-hour cable news and fears it fuels.  Increased, if misplaced, academic pressures stoked by the Smart Baby Industrial Complex. Germs.

Camping is still not a big part of my life.  The backyard is still my primary wilderness (though fortunately there are no construction sites or culverts nearby).  And I, too, use far too much media.  That said, some of my fondest recent memories involve simple walks with my children out there, esp during inaugural, ambulatory 1 year-old Springs.  Pauses to pick dandelions and marvel at their tufts, cries of “bood!” witnessing a bird, turning over rocks looking for “pedes” – my youngest daughter’s term for centipedes, extended to any creepy crawler.  Flashes of newness and excitement.  Holding dimpled hands.  Gazing at the sky.   Priceless, evocative stuff, exceeding any ranking Amazon or the iTunes store could devise.

Of course, emails pile up during such time together, text messages to send/review, websites to browse…

Are they really important?

Maybe along with care for the Earth itself, Earth Day can remind us of the importance of treasuring these intimate rituals, where it’s not only alright to slow down and take a walk outside with a child, it’s what life’s all about.  A perfect time to unplug, not only from nutty shows and videos about nature, but even from perusing blogs about the environment in peril, especially since nurturing the next generation of naturalists requires a deep-rooted sense of connectedness and concern that only such primary experiences provide.

And it’s best to start young, during those first three years, when both parent and child can be inspired – and re-inspired – together.

As for learning – a major collaborator in the nefarious plot to bring children inside – it’s important to remember that the outdoors offers one of the most robust curricula and classrooms yet devised.  The process of naming each fascinating creature (“pedes,” “boods”), noise, or object introduces an expanding ecosystem of new words.  The excitement – reality – of the moment, helps etch these into memory, exceeding what any rote flashcard could hope for.  Navigating uneven terrain and manipulating natural objects enhances motor skills.  Observing behaviors and phenomena nurture young scientists and hypothesis testing.  Assessing unfamiliar situations and objects helps develop judgment: safe or not, edible or not, mud or poo?  Intimate time together provides a sense of love and unity that is impossible to match, even for the most adorable, award-winning cartoon or video creatures.  And perhaps most of all, such real-world adventure reinforces a sense of belonging in the world, tapping into hardwired instincts deep within us.

So let’s do it!  Go play!  Er, we are go playing, right?

Hiking to new, yet related, terrain.  Some medical stuff: According to a recent, large study of US families  in the Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine, only 51% of preschool-age children are taken outside to play at least once a day by a parent.  Only 44% of mothers and 24% of fathers reported taking their child outside to play at least once a day.  Children were more likely to play outside if they had regular playmates in the neighborhood and if their parents exercise regularly, i.e. are good role models.  Lowest rates were for girls (fueled by a perception that boys need more rough-and-tumble  play), nonwhite children, and those in daycare.  Reasons were themes and variations of busy parental schedules, logistics/access, and outsourcing, i.e. a misperception that ample outdoor play is provided at school and daycare.

Unfortunately, a different, recent study in the journal Pediatrics found that activity levels at childcare are also quite low, preschoolers rarely achieving the 60-90 minutes of recommended moderate-to-vigorous physical activity during the childcare day.   Average outdoor time in the sample was 10-15 minutes.  Reasons cited were in 3 broad categories: injury concerns, a focus on academics (italics intended – yes, we are talking about preschoolers) over outdoor play, and financial constraints.  Ironically, a related observation is that concerns about injury have fueled a trend towards making playgrounds overly safe, and thus inadequately interesting and/or challenging – a.k.a. boring – to promote vigorous play.

This outdoor play deficiency – Richard Louv famously coined the term “Nature Deficit Disorder” – is especially concerning and unfortunate given the numerous, documented health benefits of such activity, ranging from lower risk of obesity and mental health problems, to a protective role vs myopia.   The equally important, if harder to quantify, spiritual, cognitive, and emotional benefits are also vast, including instilling a genuine sense of wonder, greater self-confidence and risk assessment, creativity, and sense of connectedness with the natural world.  And, as stressed in multiple older posts: none of the “educational” electronic media marketed to young children has been shown to teach or inspire anything except using more of it, and surely is not the stuff of treasured memories.

Back to the first study, which offered this call to action:

“As parents are the most important role models and decision makers for their preschoolers, they need to be aided and empowered to provide ample outdoor active play opportunities for their young children.”

 Translated: it’s up to us parents to recall our own childhoods, unplug, and get out there!  There are too many enduring reasons not to.  May your search for ‘pedes be fruitful and fun.  Happy Earth Day!

Share some of your favorite memories of your childhood wilderness – and some with your own children!

Licensed to Play: Tech Readiness

Quick quiz: Which baby is developmentally ready for what they are doing?

Answer: None of the above!

There are many things – activities, rights, or rites of passage – that we wait to do.  We wait to wean infants until they are able to digest, chew, and ultimately feed themselves, solid food.   We make teens whine until their sixteenth birthday to drive a car.  It’s twenty-one to drink beer, legally at least.  Eighteen to marry.  And the consensus is that these are for very good reasons.  The operative term is maturity.  Physical, psychological, developmental readiness.

With that in mind, how about this one?

For many of us, this concept gives us pause.  Likely because technology is involved – implying circuits, programming, science, Silicon Valley, and other high-IQ stuff – there is a prevailing notion that electronic media is not only benign, but good for any age.   There’s even a sense of excitement and inevitability regarding today’s “digital natives” – children exposed to e-media from the cradle.  What wonders await them!  If computers make grownups smart, connected, productive, and even rich beyond comprehension, imagine the benefits to children afforded the opportunity to hone their skills from infancy.  After all, childhood is when they learn, right?

The answer is wholeheartedly yes on the learning side, but a glassy-eyed, colicky no on the tech one.  Despite countless marketing claims, there is no evidence that early exposure to technology and screen-based media has any benefit for young children.  They simply do not learn well that way, unless learning to watch more counts.  The real world, its inhabitants, and ample opportunities to play with both, are their ideal curriculum.  And as I’ve discussed in other posts, there is plenty of evidence that plugging in young carries significant health and developmental risks.  Entertaining, yes – as driving a car, drinking beer, and playing with knife and fork would be…in the short term.  Constructive and a good idea – not so much.  Like it or not, technology is fundamentally a grownup thing, best for relatively mature, grownup brains.  And even grownups have a hard time using it in a balanced way, still finding time to focus on a family meal or go outside.

So the short answer: that baby isn’t ready, either.

There are very good reasons that we wait to do things.  While newer and sleeker video game systems, programming, and gadgets emerge faster every year, human developmental needs and stages stay pretty much the same.  They are not upgradable.  This is why these notions seem silly: 2 month old “food natives” eating steak, 3 year old “transportation natives” driving cars, or toddler “family natives” settling down to raise kids.   Each of these they must wait for.  Health and safety aside, if they didn’t, life wouldn’t be nearly as fun.

Our current enchantment with the iPad illustrates this well.  Recently, a viral video (akin to photo, above) showed an infant apparently trying to turn pages in an e-zine, raking the screen with her fingers.  This was taken as a sign that she was adapting to it, implying a revolutionary learning tool and that children will be incredibly skilled and smarter with early use.  The reality is, the infant was raking as all 6-7 month olds do on any surface hosting interesting objects.  She was trying to pick something up that wasn’t really there.   Being new to the 3-D world, this 2-D fake-out was surely odd and frustrating, albeit engrossing.  The bottom line: this did not aid in skill development, unless confused smudging counts.   It also does not imply computer skills.  Babies are very concrete and practical.  At this age, they should be raking real things, in preparation for a maturing pincer grasp that will someday allow them to feed themselves – utterly, critically, and eternally Baby 1.0/1G stuff.  Infants have no place using an iPad.  iPads can’t feed them, love them, nor hold them, and other than banging or chewing them – which would be discouraged – aren’t useful playthings.  Crackers and blocks, on the other hand…

One key to the problem is that technological advancement has far outstripped our ability to define its proper place.  It’s hard to keep something in perspective that upgrades every few months, lays claim to our quick-fix dopamine receptors, promises all manner of hip happiness, and makes cool/weirdo noises.  Combine that with potent “educational” marketing, and no wonder we lose sight of the fact that using and processing it effectively requires maturity.  At the same time, our children’s deep-rooted, analog, mammalian need to connect with the real world and real people is as critical as ever.   Crawling-tricycle-bike-car.   Reality-reality-reality-technology.  A tech driver’s license may be a stretch, but better-defined societal standards and a commitment to the importance of unplugged childhood would go a long way towards keeping the human highway safer and more scenic.

How old do you think children should be to start using technology?   What would you allow first?